Many people have really positive experiences coming out and often regret not doing it sooner. What may be right for one person, may not be right for you. Your safety and wellbeing should always come first. Although the lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans communities have many things in common and frequently align themselves with one another, the experiences of exploring your gender identity and coming out as trans can be very different to being open about your sexuality. If you are looking for tips on coming out as trans, check out this guide written by Lewis Hancox.
But in many ways, bisexuals have a harder time coming out. Some figure it out young, and others come out as bi after identifying as straight or lesbian for a long time. To celebrate Bisexual Awareness Week , we turned to our readers for their anecdotes and advice about coming out as bisexual. Add your own ideas, stories and questions in the comments! My coming out experience has been pretty great, honestly. Like a lot of bisexuals or femmes I know, coming out is an ongoing, piecemeal process. The first person I came out to was a dear friend and mentor who identifies similarly.
It took me years to come out as bisexual. I just didn’t feel safe enough
I came out last year, just before my 34th birthday, as a bisexual woman. I understand. As a year-old who had been previously engaged to a cis man and as someone who could have never imagined being publicly happy with a woman or nonbinary person — I empathise. Coming out as bisexual — a misunderstood sexuality — added layers of insecurity and doubt. Do I just need more Instagram likes to make this go away?
If only coming out were that simple: something done easily and only once, and once done, complete. On the contrary, coming out is a complex process. We come out to ourselves. We come out to our families, our friends, our neighbors. We come out to our co-workers and our health providers.